That IS a loaded question.
It's tough. You love your family and you know they mean well. You just wish they had more tact and sensitivity!
Don't let the rude comments get to you. Are they concerned for your health? That is more important than how you look. Make sure you have any health issues under control. Are they more concerned about your looks? Just make sure you are happy with how you look.
You are not alone! I've been there.
Take care of you.